Love is an unpredictable feeling that can disappear as suddenly as it appears. And if the cooling of feelings in a non-binding relationship instantly leads to a break, then in the case of marriage the question often arises: how to understand that the husband no longer loves you.

After all, most men continue to live with unloved wives because of a sense of duty or responsibility for the man whom they vowed to appreciate and protect all their lives. But without knowing it, they expose the once beloved woman to suffering. Therefore, it is important to be able to distinguish love from a sense of duty.

Signs of cooling feelings

Female intuition in many situations is a good helper for the fair sex, but love matters are an exception. Consider the main signs that say that a man fell out of love.

1. Minimizing communication.

If before a man sought to devote as much time as possible to his beloved, and if it was impossible, he constantly called her and wrote passionate messages, then after cooling feelings and the desire to communicate disappears. There are always standard excuses: blockage at work, problems with relatives, poor health. This is the main sign that should make a woman stop torturing herself with thoughts like "how to understand that my husband does not love me." Unfortunately, this moment has already come.

2. The disappearance of sexual desire.

Here it is necessary to exercise caution, because the reason may lie in the annoyance of monotony in sex, health problems, stress at work, and feelings at the same time remain at the same level. Therefore, it is worth serious talk with her husband and try to find out the true reason, surprise with new sexual lingerie, try role-playing games. If nothing helps, it is worth preparing to find out that the concerns about the cooling of the feelings of the beloved man were not in vain. On how to return the passion in the relationship, read.

3. Constant discontent and criticism.

If a woman gets off her feet in order to please her man, but in response sees in his eyes only indifference and irritation, the moment is lost and his past feelings are unlikely to be able to return. The attitude changes completely: if earlier a person admired the manner of the chosen one to communicate, her style, ability to cook, then with the volatilization of feelings, constant criticism and ridicule begin to hurt the fragile female heart.

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4. Lack of common topics for conversation.

When feelings only turn the head, lovers may coo for hours, but even this always seems to them a little. Over time, the couple develops together, new interests and preferences appear, respectively, they always have something to discuss. Yes, and a simple silence, looking into each other's eyes, brings them peace and tranquility. If love passes, then the conversation constantly comes to a standstill, and silence brings only irritation and a desire to quickly get out: to go to friends, to work, in a word, away from home.

5. Constant omissions, lies and deception.

If earlier the husband talked about all his beloved, but the moment came when he was repeatedly caught in a lie, it is worth considering whether another woman has appeared. After all, this is a clear sign that his wife is no longer interested in him, and he is looking for new emotions and sensations on the side. In this case, what is the point of tormenting yourself with the question "how to understand that the husband does not love me." The answer is obvious. To get rid of jealousy of her husband will help article:.

6. Lack of joint plans.

This means that the beloved is no longer making plans to conduct a joint vacation, he does not even want to think about attending the upcoming parties with his wife. And about the general rest, a campaign on the nature with approach of days off even speech cannot go. Constantly there is a thousand excuses: long-standing plans to go fishing, promise to parents to help, a bachelor party or a trip to the gym, to football.

So, the question is how to understand that the husband no longer loves you, is clarified. But there is another, no less important: is the woman ready to hear the answer and make the right decision? Whatever the case, it is always necessary to make informed and deliberate decisions. So that in the end it would not be necessary to regret the deeds and words that can no longer be returned. After all, suspicions may turn out to be false, and as a result, temporary difficulties will evaporate, and relations will improve.

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Lily, hello!
  Let's start in order. You write: “My husband beats me, does not respect me, thinks that I am nobody, and this has been going on for over a year now”. As far as I understand, you are married just recently. Tell me, please, when you got married, were you a virgin? Have you kept your purity before marriage? As far as I know from life experience and observation of people's destinies, the overwhelming majority of husbands appreciate in their wife that she married them as a virgin, and vice versa, having married no longer a virgin, often lose respect for his wife. Further. When you got married, what was your relationship with your husband? Do you know that living without marriage (fornication) imposes certain temptations on a subsequent marriage with a cohabitant as a result of fornication? Those who lived together before marriage should be prepared for sorrows in family life, as the Holy Fathers teach. You know, my relative, when she was offered to marry, read Akathist to the Savior for forty days with the bridegroom, so that if this marriage is not pleasing to God, let them better disperse than be unhappy in marriage. Now they have five children and peace and love in the family. Husband respects her, loves and cares for her. They both kept their purity before marriage. They prepared for marriage, prayed, took care of their purity, and now their home is a cup full of peace and love. My cousin gave birth to five, one by one, and her husband loves her and admires her with the feat of childbearing! Yes, in order for a husband to respect and love - you need a lot of work!
The husband’s boorish attitude is towards the wife who behaves in such a way that does not deserve the husband’s respect, for example, so the wife does not deserve the respect of the husband, who condemns and slanders everyone, who smokes and swears, who cheats on her husband, most of all, the wife who performs abortions or avoids childbearing is not worthy of the husband’s respect. When the wife is God-fearing, when the bonds of her mouth are heard only gentle and tender words, when the wife supports the husband in everything and hopes in the mercy of God, when the wife does not flirt with other men, when the wife is gentle, modest and God-fearing - the wife will always respect the wife for God is not mocked! And God will never give such a wife an offense to her husband! And what have you done so that your husband will respect you? What do you deserve his respect for? You know, I had one friend. She fell in love with the guy and did not give him a pass until she married him to herself, despite the fact that he did not have special feelings for her. Later, he still could not love her, and after several years of mutual torment, they divorced ... So you, by what you deserve the respect of your husband?
  You say scary things: “that you can't help here with prayers” - these are scary words! Think again! Repent! Prayer is our relationship with God, our communication with God, prayer is life for the soul. Where there is no prayer, there is no God, and where there is no God, there is the abomination of desolation! Do you know that a wife should DAILY! read prayers for peace and love in the family! Every day of her married life a wife should pray to God, asking Him to give peace and love in the family! And not only the wife should pray daily for peace and love in the family, but also proceed to the Mysteries of the Church: Confessions and Communion! And at least once a month! You yourself must confess and take communion regularly, but also your children take communion of the Holy Mysteries of Christ every Sunday morning! And then we live for ourselves, we do not pray to God, as you wrote: “I am a believer too, and it is not uncommon to turn to God for help.” You have to ask the Lord for help every day! Anyone who does not pray - deliberately deprives himself of God's help, and such a person should only blame himself for his failures.
Tell me, have you consecrated your marriage in the Mystery of the Wedding? Or, when you were getting married, you didn’t need God's blessing, God's help in supporting marriage? If you are not crowned, then why? Because God is in last place for you and you do not need His help? Or you are not married because the husband is an unbeliever. But then why did you, the believer, have to go beyond the unbeliever? Anyone who seriously intends to preserve his marriage, who intends to build his family by the Small Church, who is God-fearing, he will surely ask the Lord for blessing on marriage, and God will preserve this marriage through the prayers to Him of the spouses! Therefore, prayer is certainly important in family life, and only prayer in conjunction with an active church life can save a family!
  When a girl comes to marriage with full responsibility, when she keeps her purity, when she reads special prayer rules before the wedding, when she sanctifies marriage in the Sacrament of the Wedding, when she is modest, pure, when she does not shy away from childbirth, then the husband, no matter what will love and respect her, for a woman is worthy!
  You tried on Christian patience for half a year - and it didn’t suit you, since you were originally a worldly spirit, and Christians are not from this world! The Lord suffered the Cross sufferings and death for the sake of our salvation. In this way you must endure, for the sake of Eternal life, for it is only through grief and patience that we should have Eternal salvation!
  Lastly, I would like to give you the words of Archimandrite Ambrose (Fontrieux) on the importance of attending Divine Liturgy every day: “ "There is an apostolic rule:" If a person was not three Sundays in a row without a valid reason for serving, then he is separated from the Church and is outside the church fence. " Already demons have power over him. Therefore, people who do not attend church services suffer and suffer so much. Evil spirits, like wolves, like lions roar, looking for someone to catch. And a person outside the church fence becomes their easy prey. How do they torment and torment these souls! And this soul, not knowing the Love of the Lord, does not know where to seek protection. A person turns to grandmothers, psychics, to sorcerers, sorcerers - seeking help. When they "help" her, even more demons enter the soul, and she, poor, bound hand and foot, can not escape from the hands of the devil. And such people live only earthly life, trying to take everything from this life - to eat, sleep, satisfy their passions and lusts. And they will die, they think, because there is nothing behind the grave - they crumble into the dust of the earth, and everything is over ... And such people need to be explained, told about God, they must be helped to save themselves. ”
  God make you wise!

Good day! I really need to share with someone, get advice. For my husband is 5 years old. There is a wonderful son for 4 years. I understand that everything in the family depends on a woman, you have to give in and forgive, do everything with love. But what if There is no reciprocity, there is no warmth, attention, and concern. There is no communication, as if there is a huge gulf between people. There is no talk about the future about any plans and goals, no interest in my well-being is not of interest. It’s clear that I’m in my heart, because of what I’m upset or offended, never reassured me when I was crying. I feel that I’m his servant and everything ...... self-esteem on my self-confidence is also gone. I worry a lot about the health of the hair, it falls out a lot, and in general, except for the baby, nothing pleases me. Although my husband does not smoke, he does not smoke. in an hour we are already going to sleep. I see him rarely ..... and when I see little interest in myself I do not feel. I am desperate and ....... now we don’t speak at all, went on a business trip, I feel that I miss, I wrote sms to him, he didn’t respond in general as always. Then the cheerful one called so many female voices called, they say they go to dinner somewhere I asked you how he answered as a complete stranger: Thank you, everything is great. And on this day I had a hard day and a lot of stress from hard work on the cat. I just got a job, my head was very sore, and under pressure it happens that Here I talked to him on the phone. He asked something, I answered that it was bad and went to snatched it up, the son chku otdala.on no longer interested in what's with me and like me.
  He had a marriage, they divorced after 1.5 years, my daughter was 1.5 years old .... When we met, he didn’t tell me about it, I fell in love was happy that he loved me. When I brought me to my mom’s house I found out that there was a child’s marriage. I was shocked, I always dreamed that my baby would be the firstborn and my grandmothers would love him very much. But I decided for myself that it wasn’t the main thing, I lived half a year, I probably got pregnant, after a month signed a modest dinner with my parents in the restaurant.
I’m an independent person since I was 18 years old and I provided myself, I achieved a good job in a car dealership. I loved my business, I received a lot of attention from clients and from my superiors, I had the keys to the salon, I had good sales. )) I can say I was there the main person and the main one. And dear clients are interesting successful people. I went abroad on vacation. The only thing I missed was the family of a loved one child. My mother had a very difficult relationship, now I try to maintain good .she is gave birth to me at 18 then divorced married my brother was born for another. In general, I felt like an unnecessary child, a child of a voyage, I was always a helper and I came for a brother. Then I started drinking and drinking. I was locked in the main house, I dreamed about my future family. My parents and I were three divorced mom and brother, I stayed in a one-room apartment. Mom threw me out many times, she always used me to get rid of my anger and to my I reacted strangely to my success at work. I spoke to someone who needed you and worked in the subway, they wouldn't take you anywhere else. And I always wanted to prove to her that she was proud of me, bought expensive gifts for her. But in the end I left to rent a room I took the drunk and kicked me out. Then I met my husband and he seemed to me like a prince on a white horse who saved me!
  He is from a wealthy family, parents live in a cottage, he has a private apartment, they also have 3 apartments. But I do not have poverty. I don’t know what to do, I don’t have much to do .... Living knowing that my husband is with me indifferent .... does not like .... And at the same time, his son simply adores when the husband is not at home, the mother does not need his mother)) They spent the May holidays together, I was sick at home, they went to the parents' cottage without me. And I at home I suffer, it is hard for me from this. It was even sick. apparently from loneliness. Another job is that I cannot get a job. I need to take my son from kindergarten until 17. Probo ala has 4 seats, still I can not find that on a soul and match schedule.
  Although I didn’t know any problems with work before ((This is also hard for me, but my husband said yes you can’t even work you are weak, you work and leave for two days.
He started to drive me when the baby was still a baby, I don’t like looking for another. And I can’t even think about some other man, I hate, for me the strange smell of a man is no longer acceptable, for me it’s possible that someone else would touch me and etc. I don’t even like to look at photos of other men there are no emotions. I went out for a husband once and for all. My father really needs a father. In general, the family should be full, I didn’t have it, I want my son to have it!
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If you began to understand that your husband has fallen out of love with you and lives with you only out of habit, do not rush into panic. Understand that love is not asked. It must be sought and conquered.

Start practicing self-improvement. Remember how you were when your second half just met you. Surely a lot of time has passed since then, and you have changed not only internally, but also externally. Put yourself in order, update your wardrobe, make a new fashionable haircut. Carefully study your figure. Most likely, with age you gained a few extra pounds. Go on a diet, exercise, or start eating right. Eat less fried and salty foods, prefer boiled fish, meat, vegetables. Discard the sweet, replace it with fresh fruit.

After you feel attractive again, try to wake up the love of your husband. This will help you to share pleasant memories. Take him for a walk to the places you visited when you were still young and in love. Review your shared photos, find gifts that gave each other a long time ago. Positive emotions can awaken old feelings in your spouse.

Surround your lover with care and attention. He must understand that next to him is a loving and sincere person who can come to the rescue at any time.

Remind your soulmate of your feelings and say that he is still very dear to you.

How to survive the indifference of her husband?

If you cannot return the love of your spouse, you can act in two ways: endure cohabitation without feeling or divorce.

By choosing the first option, you can reassure yourself with the thought that love is too deep a concept. It includes friendship, mutual understanding, respect, habit and passion. Surely your relationship has everything except passion. Then return it. Try to bring something new into your love life, your husband will definitely appreciate it. Arrange romantic dinners, the completion of which can be your candid dance and a stormy night.

If you understand that further life together does not make sense, put a full stop and file for divorce. Of course, it is very difficult to survive parting, but believe that in the future you will surely meet a man who will love you and make you happy.